Oh Lord it’s Hard to be Humble… (Part 4)

5 Ways Being Humble gets you to Happily Ever After…

Hey Diligent Leaders, today I want to talk to you about your Happily Ever After…. You know the story, we fall in love and live happily ever after.  Yet, studies show that most of us do not find that Happily Ever After, at least not the first time.

We love being in love. From the moment eyes meet, and we acknowledge the thrill we feel when we see our other person, we’re hooked. We can’t get enough of their company and life is good…until it isn’t.

Eventually, the newness wears off, and a certain reality kicks in. Not that this is bad. Quite the contrary, it’s here where the best intimacy forms. Here you learn what it is to be part of a pair. It’s also here where you hit the adjustment period, and you start noticing the bumps in the road.

What can you do to smooth the transition from first love to happily-ever-after? You start in humility. Let’s look at five different ways being humble is guaranteed to make your marriage better.

You Gain Tolerance for Different Ideas

The hardest part of being part of a pair is trying to find a way to make very different viewpoints compatible. Humility reminds you to take a step back and consider the other person might be right.  Either you’ll discover something new, or you’ll eventually agree to disagree.  Regardless, you won’t be arguing about the outcome.

You Learn Inner Strength

The ability to hold back and not shove yourself into the spotlight tends to come from a place of quiet confidence. You know what you’re good at; you don’t need to prove anything. This benefits relationships as this inner strength will get you through a lot of relationship turmoil and make you slower to anger or lose sight of relationship goals.

You Listen…and Learn

Someone with humility accepts there are things they can gain from the other person. They tend to listen more in conversations and try to see the other person’s viewpoint. This makes for better communication and an appreciation for what your mate has to teach you.

You Don’t React as Quickly

A humble person holds back when attacked and doesn’t immediately become defensive. This means they’re less likely to get into a useless spat and are more likely to be able to defuse a situation that might otherwise break the relationship.

You Stop Assuming You Know Best

Humility means accepting you have flaws and releasing the idea you’re an expert. My dad would always say, “Son, you know what an ‘expert’ is? an ‘ex’ is a has been and a “spert” is a drip under pressure, don’t forget that.”  This makes you more likely to be willing to learn, and even to apologize when things go haywire. Both these traits will open you to being more vulnerable with the one you love, making room for added closeness.

It can be tough to be humble, especially if you’re not used to it. What you need to remember here is you’re not doing it for just yourself. There’s a whole second person in your life now who deserves the very best you can give them. By keeping this in perspective, you’ll find your marriage feels fresh and more intimate.

What lessons have you learned in your adventure to Happily Ever After? Leave a Comment Below